58. An open letter to our daughter’s social workers

Good morning,

You may not know this, but we have gotten out of bed some days simply because of your support. We have gotten ready for the day with confidence that you helped us build. We have tackled emergency situation after emergency situation with a calmness that you helped us find. We snuggled our daughters a little harder because you reminded us of what trauma can do a brain. We welcomed in a sixteen-year-old daughter with no notice because you helped us see that our family was set up to be able to handle the additional challenges. We are about to adopt a teenager because you helped us see what our lives would be like with her as our forever daughter.

~The SalisottsRead More »


57. Mama A talks about being open and ready for whatever the girls bring up to talk about

Mama A here this week making a guest appearance! An interesting thing happened this weekend and I wanted to take a few moments of your time to share.

This past Sunday Mama S and Little Lady attended a conference to help Little Lady think about and prepare for college. That left P and I home for a lazy Sunday morning. I was folding laundry and P was working on a PowerPoint presentation to teach the family about space (she loves space and we are a family of life long learners). She came into the room I was folding laundry and said that she thinks she was grumpy the week before and Saturday because she thinks she might have a crush on a girl in her class. Now I could have reacted in an array of different ways. What I chose to do in that moment was to give her my attention. I continued to fold laundry but I gave her space to talk or not talk. What I didn’t do was make a big deal out of anything. Let me repeat that. I didn’t make a big deal out of anything.Read More »

56. Should we require appreciation from our kiddos?

Mama S here. I have seen an article being widely spread that speaks about how foster children shouldn’t be required to be grateful for everything the foster family does for them. That the foster family signs up for caring for kiddos from hard places and that they shouldn’t expect their foster kids to appreciate what they do for them. I’ve been sitting with that for a bit and I have to say that, while I partially agree, I also strongly disagree.Read More »

55. The next frontier

Good morning, Mama S here. There have been a lot of talks within our household of a dream I have that I am taking steps toward becoming a reality. As some of you may be aware, I read, watch, discuss everything I can come across that talks about parenting, successful parenting, children that grew up with trauma, etc. I have been taking in all this information and discussing it in therapy, at home, with other foster parents, and with our social workers. This has put an idea in my head that has been brewing for about a year now. Today is the day to put it out there and hold myself accountable. I am taking steps to become a Certified Parenting Coach and I will (eventually) also be studying to become certified in Trust Based Relational Intervention.

Before you ask, I’m still continuing my other schooling. I’m doing both.  It seems like a lot. Sometimes it seems like too much. What I will end up doing is taking my classes for my bachelors degree (as I have been) and then also studying in a program to become a Certified Parenting Coach. That program will take 12-15 months to complete once I start and then I will take a brief break, this mama will need a nice vacation, then I will start the program to become certified in TBRI (Trust Based Relational Intervention).

It is my intention to work with families in the greater Milwaukee area that are tired of trying the same things and it not working, too exhausted to research some parenting strategies that may work for their family, just want an outsider’s view on how their family can run more cohesively, and/or want someone to come in and help everyone get on the same page.

It won’t be easy. It is going to be a LOT of work, it is going to take me away from my family on many nights/weekends when I am doing sessions with other families, it will mean MORE homework, more reading, more items on the schedule. It is all worth it. Plus, it has the added bonus of showing our girls that a dream worth having is a dream worth fighting for. It is worth the hard work. It takes hard work and it is a beautiful thing to have your family support you. That is a life lesson that they can take with them for years to come.

So… Here’s to the start of something great. The next frontier. I will be required to have over 100 hours of practical hands on work while I am doing my studies. Please think about if you would be willing to give me a shot. If for nothing else, to help this mama start her dream. Who knows, perhaps we will all grow for the better- that’s the intention!

Thank you for coming along on this journey with us.

Until next time,

Mama S

54. The hard parts of being a foster parent

Hello! Mama S here. I have been sharing a lot of the “wins” of our fostering journey over the past bit and have gotten the idea that people think that our journey is one win after the other. While we celebrate the wins and put them out into the world- it is time to share some of the hard parts of being a foster parent. These are not specific to the kiddos we have at this moment, it encompasses all the kiddos we have had in our home and our fostering journey as a whole. So… what is the hardest part? It is so. darn. lonely.Read More »

53. Adoption Home-study

Hello, everyone! Mama S here. Our family is settling into a new normal and we are looking forward to 2019. In early 2019 we will be adopting our 16 year old and, in preparation of that, we have more paperwork to do. We were assigned an adoption worker and will be going through the home-study process in these next few months. Read More »