45. Shifting your perspective

Mama S here. Yesterday was a day like any other. I was at work and had a bunch of meetings where I can walk attorneys through a piece of software they don’t want and has less information than the one we are replacing. I got to work and looked at my calendar and saw a name that gave me a shudder. For 3 weeks I have been told many things about this person. They are grumpy, they nitpick everything, that if they say something positive is the time to worry, etc. I told someone I had a call with her that day and they cringed and said they were sorry to push them off on me. I took a deep breath and walked back to my office in dread. I picked up the phone, dialed into the conference line and decided I was going to give her the benefit of the doubt.Read More »

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44. Sleep Training a Pre-Teen

Mama S here. Have you sleep trained a toddler? Perhaps you are going through that right now. If so, you know all the stall tactics that kiddos bring when they are avoiding sleep. “can I get a drink of water”, “I have to go to the bathroom”, “please read me one more story”, and on and on it goes. Simply maddening.Read More »

43. Saying Yes

Mama S here. The third post in this series about how we respond to P. Saying YES as often as we can. I was chatting with a friend the other day and we were talking about how we feel when we hear the word no. How we feel when we hear that we can’t do what we want. As an adult, how does it feel when you have the best idea ever and you pitch it to your boss and they say no. How does it feel when you tell your partner that you want to do something with them on Friday night and they look at you and say No? Doesn’t feel good does it? It stinks even if you can reason out why they are saying no. Your boss may go on to explain that it isn’t in the budget. Your partner may say they already had plans. Still stinks to hear no!Read More »

43. Vlogging

Mama S here. I have been getting great feedback from people on our blog. We have hit over 40 posts in the last 2 years and we have no signs of stopping. People love to give ideas and encouragement on the blog and our fostering journey. I have had a few people tell me that they think the blog is great, but they would rather listen to our story than read it. That got us thinking. Then we got busy. It was just last week that a dear friend prompted me again to thinking about vlogging and I decided there is no time like the present!

Cue to today and our premier vlog post. I am going to go live on our 2 Moms in the Foster Lane Facebook page and introduce our family, what we have been doing these past 2 years and, over the next few vlog posts, catch the watchers up to the present. After I have a few vides under our belt and we are caught up to the present day I will start to write the blog post and do a vlog video. This way we are capturing the largest audience we can.

Please feel free to jump on the FB live videos and type in some comments and thoughts. I’d love to hear from everyone!

Until next time,

Mama S

41. Boundaries

Mama S here. I figure it is best to start with the biggest topic that people have opinions on with Mama A’s and my parenting. Boundaries. People look into our lives and don’t understand why our “no’s” are so firm and why we almost never say maybe. They don’t see how many times we re-frame what would have been a No to a yes. We are going to explore that today.Read More »

40. Learning how to shower as a pre-teen

Mama S here. I’ve written this post so many different ways. In my head and on paper and it just don’t seem to come out right. I will try my best and please ask any questions you have. Our little came to us not knowing many of the skills that you might expect an older toddler to have. One example is how to bathe. For the first few weeks she lived with us we just let her do what she was going to do and took notes of the outcome. Then we tried prompts before she went into the bathroom. Then we moved to sitting outside the bathroom door and gave verbal prompts of what to do. Then we washed her hair in the sink to show her how to do it and what it should feel like. Nothing was making a difference.Read More »