42. Why we avoid maybe

Mama S here. To continue on from my previous post about boundaries we are going to jump in on our war against the word maybe. If Mama A and I say that we maybe will do something once every couple of weeks, I would be shocked. What do we take such a hard stance? Security!


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41. Boundaries

Mama S here. I figure it is best to start with the biggest topic that people have opinions on with Mama A’s and my parenting. Boundaries. People look into our lives and don’t understand why our “no’s” are so firm and why we almost never say maybe. They don’t see how many times we re-frame what would have been a No to a yes. We are going to explore that today.

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40. Learning how to shower as a pre-teen

Mama S here. I’ve written this post so many different ways. In my head and on paper and it just don’t seem to come out right. I will try my best and please ask any questions you have. Our little came to us not knowing many of the skills that you might expect an older toddler to have. One example is how to bathe. For the first few weeks she lived with us we just let her do what she was going to do and took notes of the outcome. Then we tried prompts before she went into the bathroom. Then we moved to sitting outside the bathroom door and gave verbal prompts of what to do. Then we washed her hair in the sink to show her how to do it and what it should feel like. Nothing was making a difference.

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39. Are we an adoptive resource?

Mama S here. Recently we were officially asked if we are an adoptive resource. This wasn’t shocking to us or even a surprise at all. The circumstances around our little lady were heading to adoption and we knew that it was a matter of time before we were asked that question. We figured we would have more time to think about it and decide. We should have known the official ask would happen the day it did.


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37. Foster Parent Champions

Mama S here. Mama A and I are foster parent champions. Some may know the term, others possibly not. What that means is, we are always talking to people about becoming foster parents. We share our story with limited details, we talk about the positives and some of the struggles, we write a blog to bring people along in our journey, we do all sorts of research on foster parenting strategies and share that with peers, and we invite people into our home to talk about what it all means and how they can get involved.


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36. Reserving Judgment

Mama S here. Recently I had the most beautifully hard conversation with our little’s biological parent. We were talking about all the hard things that were happening in their live and what they were going to do to try and get back on track. The seriousness and  importance of that conversation was not lost on me. We made it to the point where they view Mama A and I as a support. Someone to talk with when they need a sympathetic ear.


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